More fun with insults!
So, there is a guy that works in my company whom I find somewhat attractive, and hell, what's wrong with having a date once in awhile? He doesn't work directly with me, so there is no conflict of interest with regards to fraternization. So I had another co-worker try to lay some groundwork with this guy. In the process, the guy in question defined me as being "super-nice."WHAT?!
Frankly, it sounds like an insult.Super-nice
is what you call your favorite aunt. Super-nice
is what you call your elderly neighbor who occasionally drops off an extra pie she has just whipped up and can't eat by herself. Super-nice
is what you call the AAA tow-truck driver who doesn't rip off your axle when he rescues you from the ditch you've accidentally driven into.
Let me drop a hint for you guys: women do not want to be called nice
. "Cute." "Compelling." "Sexy." "Smart." "Hot." "Mattressable." Even "attractive" is a better vague-ish pronouncement than "nice."
"Nice" infers that the person in question is so lacking in any identifying characteristics that you couldn't come up with a more definitive adjective. Ugh. It's like the beige of descriptors.
Now, I'm sure you might say "well, he was discussing someone he just met in a work context, so he probably didn't think it appropriate to say something more horn-doggy." Yeah, well, whatever. He was actually talking to his male friend from work, and don't tell me men don't dish just as much as women, cause I know better. Frankly, I'd rather have a guy say "I'm just not into her" rather than say nice
Plus, it's just not true. I'm not nice. I don't want to be nice. I would like to be more compassionate, but I don't think that's the same.
So for all ya'll that might be struggling with how to describe me, here's a personally approved short-list of adjectives:
- mildly introverted